Emotional Healing
Haven’t each one of us wished that we could be our younger carefree self again? Before life hit with lessons that scarred us. Leaving bruises where love should have been. Healing emotionally is to be become that version of yourself. To find peace in the bits of shattered lessons that life taught us.
How does one start the process of healing?
I wish I could tell you it was easy. But healing itself means you may need to visit the very environment that broke you. The trauma, the scars hidden deep in you that you chose to remain hidden in order to move on.
What happens here is that we hide from it and not heal from it. In order for a wound to heal you will feel the pain every time you dress it. The same way emotional healing is a process which hurts. But with the proper guidance the scars would hardly be visible making your life more meaningful.
Life isn’t going to stop giving you challenges, so it is up-to us to either heal from the hurt or hide from the hurt.
How can one heal from an emotional wound?
Over the period of years there may be a number of things that have caused you pain and grief. Trying to heal everything at once is going to be overwhelming and mentally exhausting.
A few ways that worked for me are:
Identify where your hurt lies.
Start right from childhood. I took baby steps and it took me years, I still have a long way to go. I dug deep into my childhood since I remembered only a happy upbringing. As I went deeper, I found many moments I kept buried inside as it hurt me and changed my personality.
But did I want to change who I have become? I felt comfortable with who I was now. I paused for days as I thought it was all fine and I was just bringing up moments that brought me pain again. It was much later that I realized that in order to heal you don’t have to change the person you have become as those were all life lessons. You don’t need to forget it; you just need to embrace it.
Take one phase at a time.
Years before, I just couldn’t bring myself to do this, as the emotions were overwhelming and knocked me down every time. I decided to take one step at a time. From the things that were constantly in the back of my mind to the ones I had almost forgotten. The incident can be forgotten but the effects it has on you don’t go away.
Feel every emotion when you think of a particular phase.
I took some time off from my daily activities just to reflect on my emotions surrounding a particular situation. The pain, the anger, the tears. Let it all pass through you.
Understand things from a different perspective.
The wounds and scars we are trying to heal are situations in the past. I realized I was now in a position to look at the situation and analyze it from a different perspective. Where I went wrong. Where I was wronged. Everything slowly seemed to make more sense to me.
Give some love to yourself in the situation.
The love and understanding I longed for in a particular phase were a major part of the scars that I had from life. I knew instantly I had to give myself all the love I wanted.
Forgiving
Now this is a word that seems to always be a part of everyone’s vocabulary. But how many of us really know it? Forgiving myself for the mistakes I made was more difficult than forgiving others who have wronged me. This is absolutely necessary in order to heal. Forgiving and accepting those who have wronged us by looking at it from their perspective. The hardest part is accepting and forgiving ourselves.
Lessons the situation taught.
The pain, the sleepless nights, the tears and everything you felt are all lessons that the situation has taught you. After going through the above process, it would be easier to understand what our higher self is trying to teach us. Now it is time we get to make a life altering decision. Did I want these experiences to make me into a bitter person or did I want to learn and grow from it? I chose the latter. I kept in mind the lesson taught and sometimes journaled it as these were my important life experiences and I did not want to repeat the same pattern again.
Change the story.
Now I felt a lot lighter. The biggest steps in my healing have happened. I just needed to look at things differently. That is without the negative emotions attached to it. I realized that the past is what make me who I am today. Embracing the lessons, I learnt. Forgiving the ones who wronged me and forgiving myself for the wrongs I made.
This journey has been more difficult to overcome than any of the challenges that life has brought. Diving deep into your memories and thoughts and seeing your raw self makes one wonder how beautiful life gets. Understanding yourself from within. Healing yourself from within. I say this was the truest form of love you gift yourself. You realize many things in this journey and what makes us who we are. Keep the lessons, remember a pattern when it happens.
“The wound is where the light enters. -Rumi”
Sending positive vibes
Love
Celestial Light
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